Do you believe you can achieve your personal goals and attract your desires? Or do you just consider them as wishes for another life? Most of us have that deep desire, a desire we most likely had when we were young, that has never left us. Perhaps you wanted to be a businessman (the biblical man, that is gender-less ), or a writer, a motivational speaker, or a farmer, etc, but circumstances and society have convinced you otherwise and you’ve resigned the ‘fate’ that society has confined you to.
You have instead settled into a lifestyle of living someone else’s dreams and settling for a comfortable ‘success’. I put success in quotes because success is defined by Earl Nightingale as “the progressive realization of a worthy ideal”. Is what you are doing a ‘worthy goal’ to you or do you always feel a little ‘misplaced’?
The deep desires of your heart usually are closely inclined to your purpose in life and have been placed there for this purpose. Their fulfillment is the only thing that would make you fully content. There is nothing selfish about wanting to fulfill your desires. After all, the good book says “and He shall give you the desires of your heart”. So why do we belittle our desires?
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In this article, we address a few things you can do to attract what you desire and to achieve your goals; mostly based on research and successful people have attested to this;
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You become what you think about most
You might have heard the phrase “when you think you can, then you can, and when you think you can’t, then you can’t”. Are your thoughts supporting your goals? Or are your thoughts full of pity, wishing your status would have been different? Do you have warm fuzzy feelings toward the attainment of your desires? You attract what you consistently think about, someone who’s always afraid they will get sick, does eventually get sick, and those who are convinced they will succeed and become wealthy, do succeed and become wealthy.
What percentile are you? Your thoughts also highly determine your attitude, which in turn also determines your altitude. Chose your thoughts wisely, since they form you.
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You reap what you sow
When you plant maize, you cannot expect to reap beans. So it is with life when you plant hatred, you shall receive hatred, when you plant love, you receive love. When you sow positivity, you’ll reap positivity, so it is with negativity. What would you like to achieve in life, sow that which you desire, till the ‘land’ and you shall surely reap what you have sown? Want to start a business? Learn how to run one, learn from your employer, learn from those that are running businesses, and don’t wait for the grand idea with all the capital required, start with the mustard seed that is in your hands. Most successful businessmen started with the little they had in their hands. If you want to open a bakery, why not start by baking and sharing with those around you?
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Visualize your goal
The journey to nowhere will surely get you there. We tend to be very good at planning holidays, trips, and even work goals, but have you sat down and made a life plan? What would you like to be or to do with your life? Most of us don’t have a clear vision and we simply flow with the wind, hoping it will get us somewhere. It is like starting a journey with no destination in mind.
It's time to map out what you want to do or to be, at what stage in life, and where, then visualize yourself in that state. Let the actualization of that reality be so vivid in your mind. To help you get this better, create a vision board for it and look at it every so often. You’ll find a way to start steering toward it, even if you did not know where to start.
Sometimes in life, we don’t always know the How, but if you know the Where, the How will always work itself out.
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Faith and Belief in yourself
Do you believe you deserve what you desire? If you struggle with that, you’re not alone. Years and years of negative schooling might have clouded the reality and convinced you that some of these achievements are for a select few. This is where you need to start to check your thoughts and use I am affirmations. Learn from others that have preceded you, and seek internal strength and motivation, to get to believe in yourself and that you deserve it. That small voice that’s been crying inside you to come out only needs to be strengthened, and it will take over.
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Ask and it shall be given
The most generous people in this world are those who have it all together, and the most valuable help that can be given always comes for free. Many successful people are more than happy to share their journey with others. They can give you invaluable information that you’ll not find in school or books. All it takes is to ask. In my recent journey, I’ve interacted with many ‘influential’ people who have been more than happy to give me their snippets and nuggets of wisdom for free. All it takes is to make that phone call, make that connection and ask. And if you aspire to a higher power, do also ask the higher power that is all-seeing and all-knowing and it shall be given.
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Worry brings fear, but action drives out fear
Before you embark on a new venture, there’s always a fear of not succeeding, a fear of being exposed, and a fear of imposter syndrome, which makes you worried. The fastest way to drive out fear is by action. Act despite your fear. After all, a big percentage of what we fear the most never actually happens, but if you are to fail, how about you fail quickly so that you can learn and move on?
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Seek to Enrich others first
In one of his books, Earl Nightingale gives an example of a person asking the wood to give him warmth before he lights it up - of course, that would be ridiculous, but sometimes that is how we behave. We want results before adding value. In whatever you do, add value to others first before you can receive value from them. Jim Rohn said, “add value to so many people that they will be willing to pay you for it”. It never starts the other way around.
- Act like it
Miles Munroe once said, if you want to be influential like a specific persona, start acting like them, even if it’s just by the walking style. There’s something that happens both in your mind and attitude when you take on the persona of the person you’d most want to be like. This is also supported by psychology. Your body and faculties assume that this is the reality and will offer you support toward that attainment. You must have seen athletes use the phrase “see it, be it”, where they envision themselves doing what they want to do, internalize and own it, then do it. This is the same principle. Act as if you’ve already attained it.
This year, let’s revive those dreams, and those desires and believe that you too deserve to actualize your dreams. Better to fail to try than to never have tried at all.
