We talk about the importance of surrounding yourself with positive influences. But how do you actually find these people and build those connections? This is where networking and learning some basic communication skills comes into play.
I’m a self-proclaimed introvert, which my husband disagrees, not sure why, but I really am. I’m just a little extroverted around my close circles. If you have some introverted nature like me, making new connections and friends does not come automatically.
Unlike adults, children with their inherent curiosity, effortlessly forge friendships. They actively seek out commonalities and quickly establish connection. Whenever you join a new neighborhood, the first people to know each other are usually the children.
This is an art that gets lost as we grow up. To increase your network however, it might call on us to become a little childlike. The good book talks about the kingdom of God belong to those that are like little children. I trust this is because they are teachable, innocent, non-judgmental, open minded and easily believing. They’re not complicated nor self-seeking.
So how can you go about re-developing these skills?
Genuine Interest: Effective networking starts with genuine interest in others. When meeting someone for the first time, or the second, show some genuine interest. Ask thoughtful questions, listen actively, and find common ground. This open and positive approach creates a welcoming atmosphere and fosters trust.
Positive Body Language: Smile, make eye contact, and project confidence. Non-verbal cues speak volumes and can instantly set a positive tone during interactions. My sister has a friend who’s actually a lovely person but she has this demeanor that makes her look cold and unfriendly. Perhaps if you have ‘that’ face, you might need to practice in the mirror for your A-game face. When your body language is positive, you look more approachable and friendly.
Active Listening: Truly listen to understand, not just to respond. Pay attention to what others are saying, and ask clarifying questions. This shows respect and creates a space for open communication. Everyone, including introverts like to talk about themselves when given a chance, listen actively.
Focus on Shared Goals: When networking, find common ground and shared goals. Children’s common goal is to have fun as they play. What common goals would you have as adults? Talking about your aspirations and how you can help each other creates a sense of collaboration and mutual benefit.
Be an Uplifter: Focus on spreading positivity. Share good news, offer encouragement, and celebrate the successes of others. This enthusiasm is contagious and fosters a supportive and positive environment. In my last networking session, I learn a great deal from the lady seated next to me; Joyce, who gave me nuggets on life that uplifted me.
By mastering these skills, you become someone who actively creates a positive space around you. People gravitate towards those who make them feel valued and appreciated. Remember, strong communication and a positive approach are the keys to building a network of supportive and inspiring connections.
Building Your Dream Team: Actionable Steps
How do you build the team of 5?
- Identify Your Ideal Circle: Reflect on the qualities you value in friends and mentors. Depending on the environment you seek. Should they be ambitious, supportive, or possess skills you admire? What should be their direction and plans in life? Having a clear idea of who you want in your life helps you find them.
- Be a Giver, Not Just a Taker: Strong relationships are a two-way street. Be genuinely interested in others, offer support, and celebrate their successes. Genuine connections are made when both parties feel they have something to benefit. Even mentors benefit when they feel that their input is of help to others.
- Expand Your Horizons: Step outside your comfort zone and explore new activities or groups. Join a network or a club, attend workshops, or volunteer for a cause you care about. These are excellent places to meet like-minded people.
- Seek Out Mentors: Don't be afraid to reach out to people you admire. Many professionals are happy to mentor someone eager to learn. Research potential mentors in your field, connect with them on LinkedIn, or express your interest in a coffee chat.
- Nurture Existing Relationships: Existing friendships hold immense value. Invest time in strengthening them. Plan regular catch-ups, offer help when needed, and be a good listener.
Remember: Building positive relationships takes time and effort. Be patient, put yourself out there, and focus on cultivating genuine connections. By surrounding yourself with the right people, you'll create a powerful support system that empowers you to achieve your goals and become the best version of yourself.
